The truth is, transitions are where we often meet ourselves most honestly. They force reflection. They require courage. And they remind us that it’s okay to not have it all figured out. You’re not behind. You’re just becoming. Embracing this mindset can help us navigate these changes with resilience and optimism.

As a millennial psychotherapist at Resilience Therapy, I often navigate challenges that extend far beyond the therapy room. While our society is increasingly open to mental health conversations, there persists a misconception that therapy—and the professionals who provide it—aren't engaged in "real" work. Let me be clear: my clients are my absolute priority, and I'm committed to showing up fully for each person who trusts me with their mental health journey. Today, I want to share some candid reflections on the realities of therapeutic work, and why the boundaries, schedules, and financial aspects of this profession aren't just valid—they're essential.

If you’ve experienced independence in your early thirties you know that the path here may have been paved with a mix of good intentions and a simmering level of resentment or frustration. From “you’ll meet them when you’re not looking” to “your cousin met their partner on Hinge,” friends, family and even random strangers may have given you their two cents about where to find love and perhaps, why you haven’t found it yet. They seemed to suggest that while your achievements are impressive, opening your heart to love could bring even more fulfillment.

These statements, whether they are well meaning or subtly critical, can leave a mark on how we feel about ourselves especially in the highly vulnerable area of interpersonal dynamics. With all of this external messaging, how do we begin to figure out what it is that we’re looking for in partnership and what type of person we’re trying to attract?